Changing The Place Of Residence Can Be A Big Challenge For All Family Members, Especially Kids.
There are more than enough reasons for adults to change their place of residence: a more interesting and a better-paid job, a desire to give children the best education, a dream to live in better city, and many others. And, as a rule, when family decides to move, children inevitably follow their parents. It is not easy for everyone to change of habitat, it has difficulties and ways to overcome.
Someone might say, ” what’s the big deal? Especially, if parents have already set everything up: they have prepared a room for their child and took care of the kindergarten or school?”. But in fact, everything is not so simple. Moving can be very stressful and have the most unexpected consequences. At the same time, preschoolers, primary school students and teenagers may react differently to life changes.
1.”IT WAS ALL MINE!”
Attachment to certain things is not only about adults. For children, familiar lok, setting in the condo or house in which they live, symbolize on an unconscious level the stability and security of the world. The new place, even though it is better and more spacious, unwittingly disturbs the internal balance. And therefore, requires mastering and getting used to.
We suggest to speak ore about upcoming move with your children way before the moving date. Tell your children about your plans in advance, give them an opportunity to choose the things that they want to take with them. If possible, make a new room or corner for your child similar to the place that he had before.
- “I WANT IT TO BE LIKE BEFORE…”
Older children pay attention to another circumstance related to the place of residence. When they move to a new location, they are deprived of their freedom of movement.
Teenagers, especially those who are fearful and suspicious, sometimes refuse to go out themselves. A new city, large spaces, poor knowledge of the area, fear of getting lost lead to the fact that children themselves do not want to move independently, unwittingly reducing their opportunities to adapt and maintain the activity that was inherent in their former place.
- “I WANT TO COME BACK TO THE OLS SCHOOL”
Another daycaren, other teachers who do not know your kid at all is stressful. It will take time, but in Ontario it is so common to change place of residency that teachers know exactly how to behave and help your kid to adapt easily.
Another difficulty may occur as inability to continue to attend classes that your child had at the previous place of residence. Gymnastics, dancing classes, martial arts -anything that brings more joy should be on the list which will cheer your kids up. Prepare, register in advance, find out where your neighbours’ kids are going to – and your kids will be grateful for that.